Sexual frustration is, sadly, a lot more common than we’d like to admit. We all go through «dry spells», times when we’re just not getting as much action as we want.
It’s important to recognize the signs of sexual frustration and sexual deprivation so you know how to deal with them in a productive, healthy manner.
11 Signs You Are Sexually Frustrated or Sexually Deprived
- You’ve got a lot of energy.
Because you’re not expending your energy on sex, you may wind up feeling antsy and filled with nervous energy.
- You’ve got destructive habits.
You tend to pick labels off bottles, pull paper plates to tiny pieces, or bite your nails. It’s a downside of sexual frustration that can manifest through tiny actions!
- You’ve got less interest in sex.
It’s a sad side effect of a lack of sex, and it may continue to spiral downward until you finally get some action and remember the joy of sex.
- You’re highly sensitive to skin contact.
Even the slightest touch on your skin is enough to make you feel aroused.
- You tend to be on edge.
Crankiness is definitely one of the most common signs of sexual frustration. Sex releases feel-good chemicals that help to regulate your mood, but without sex, your brain produces far less of those chemicals—ergo, you are more moody and irritable.
- You tend to masturbate less.
Many people suffering from sexual frustration have a hard time engaging in any sexual activity, even self-stimulation. This can lead to feelings of being pent-up, frustrated, or anxious.
- You tend to lower your standards.
You find yourself attracted to anyone and everyone, and you get aroused by things far too easily. Just like «beer goggles» are a thing, «sexual frustration goggles» are too!
- You can’t do anything to be in a good mood.
Sexual frustration can cause irritability and anger, and it can be hard to snap out of the bad mood. Really, the only cure is a good boning or sexual release of some sort!
- You can’t stop crying randomly.
Your sexual frustration is very likely causing emotional imbalances, and you tend to break into tears randomly over insignificant things that never would have bothered you before.
- You can’t stop stress eating or drinking.
This is a common side effect of sexual frustration, as it’s your brain’s way of trying to find «pleasure» in another activity that doesn’t involve sex. Sadly, food and drink can never really replace sex, so you just end up eating and drinking more and more without that release you crave.
- You can’t stop eating ice.
Sexually frustrated people may become more prone to compulsive activities, such as chewing ice. It’s an old wives’ tale that ice chewing is the result of sexual frustration, but that sort of compulsive behavior is not uncommon.
How to Deal with Sexual Frustration
So now that you’ve figured out the truth behind a lot of your irritability, anger, moodiness, and frustration, it’s time to take action and cure the problem!
Easier said than done, I know. Dealing with sexual frustration isn’t easy, but if you can find a way to cope with and get over it, it will improve your quality of life significantly.
Here’s what you can do:
Yep, the simplest solution might be the best one! Your body gets tense when there is no release, and masturbation is the quickest way to get that release. Men and women both should consider a bit of self-love, and you’ll start feeling much better right afterward!
You’ve got a lot of extra energy now that you’re not having sex, so why not put that energy to good use? Take up a new hobby, throw yourself into a passion project, or find something interesting to occupy your time and keep you busy.
Another great solution! You may be holding off for «the one» or the perfect guy or girl for a relationship, but sometimes it’s okay to have a one-night stand or weekend romance just for the sake of getting over sexual frustration. If it’s been a while since you got some action, it may be a good idea to have some fun.
Take a shower
A cold shower can do wonders to calm your raging libido and shut off the sexual thoughts in your brain. It’s only a temporary fix, however, and it will only work for a few hours at best.
Again, this is a constructive way to use all of the extra energy you’ve got pent-up after weeks, months, or years without having sex. Exercise can do wonders to regulate your mood and balance out your hormones, and will help you feel better about yourself even if you’re not having mind-blowing orgasms on the regular.
Social engagement can help to stave off the inevitable irritation and depression that kicks in after a long time with no sexual activity. Spending time with friends and family is a great way to raise your spirits and elevate your mood, and it will help to take your mind off all the fun you’re not having.
Talk to someone
Sometimes it helps to have a professional to talk to. You may find there’s a subconscious or unconscious obstacle getting in the way of having a healthy relationship, or you’ve got some emotional issues that need untangling in order to enjoy sex once more. Whatever the case, it’s a good idea to consider seeing a professional to help you better understand yourself and the frustration you’re dealing with.
Sexual frustration isn’t an easy burden to bear, and it may start to feel like an impossible weight that will never go away. But give it time! The tips above will help you to recognize the signs of sexual frustration and you’ll be able to start looking for ways to cope until you can get that action you’ve been craving. Action is the key to long-term success, so get started today.