We’ve all been asked by our partners, «Why do you love me?»
That may feel like a trap, a question designed to put you on the spot, but the truth is that it’s often nice to hear what makes someone else so in love with you. Your partner may just want to hear a bit of validation and appreciation.
Time to get prepared for this question! Next time your partner asks, you can say «I’m so in love with you because:»
- 1 Because of who you are
- 2 Because of how you make me feel
- 3 Because you make me at peace with myself
- 4 Because I can see a future with you
- 5 Because I love how you love me
- 6 Because life with you is always an adventure
- 7 Because you make me better
- 8 Because you understand me
- 9 Because you chose me
- 10 Because of your (favorite body or sexual attribute)
- 11 Because you’re in it for the long haul
Because of who you are
Everyone likes to hear that people approve of them not because of what they do, but because of who they are on a fundamental level. Whether they’re kind, generous, caring, friendly, protective, or strong, they will be happy to know that you’re in love with them for those attributes.
Because of how you make me feel
This one will be a very good one to tell a man. «I love you because you make me feel happy, protected, safe, loved, respected, desired, or intelligent.» Guys like to feel that their actions and attitudes are having an effect on the women in their lives, so he will appreciate hearing this one.
Because you make me at peace with myself
We all have insecurities and doubts about our thoughts, feelings, personality, traits, and attributes. But when you find the right person, they help you to look past those doubts and insecurities and feel comfortable about who you are. Telling them that is one of the highest compliments you can pay them.
Because I can see a future with you
It’s not easy to find that perfect someone. You might have gone through many boyfriends or girlfriends in the past, but now that you’re with your current special someone, you can look beyond the present to see a future together. This is a huge moment for a lot of people, as it’s proof that you can build a life as partners, can make big decisions together, and fight anything life throws in your path. Both women and men like to know that you see a future in your relationship with them.
Because I love how you love me
Yes, it’s wonderful to feel loved! That man or woman in your life makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, and when you’re around them, you feel like the most important person in the world to them. Let them know that you appreciate the way their feelings for you make you feel.
Because life with you is always an adventure
This is great for people who like to go, do, see, and try all the time! It can be tough to adjust to a boyfriend or girlfriend who is always wanting to experience new things, but after a while, you may just come to see that their excitement for life can be contagious. Saying this to them can help them know that you approve of their adventuresome spirit, and you may even come to enjoy it as much as they do.
Because you make me better
Relationships are all about love and companionship, but they can also lead to important steps of self-discovery and growth. When you’re in a relationship, you find out a lot of things about yourself you never thought of or didn’t know. As you confront the issues that arise in your relationship, you take steps to improve yourself and get better. Letting your significant other know you appreciate that about them is a compliment of the highest order. Thanks to the time you’ve spent with them, you have become far better as a person!
Because you understand me
The movie Wedding Crashers put it best: «True love is the soul’s recognition of its counterpoint in another.» It means that you get the other person not just intellectually, but on a deeper level. Finding that someone who «gets you» is so important, and when you find them, you want to hold onto them at all costs. If that special man or woman in your life gets you—all your crazy quirks, passions, interests, and foibles—you tell them how much you appreciate that!
Because you chose me
He or she made the conscious decision to talk with you, flirt with you, sleep with you, and enter into a relationship with you. However, every day, they make the unconscious decision to STAY in that relationship with you. It’s the decision to set their own wants and needs aside for your own, to hold their tongue when they’d rather say something angry, or to give up a part of their life to take on a bigger part of yours. The fact that they chose you and continue to choose you every day is the greatest sign of love, so it’s important that you acknowledge it.
Because of your (favorite body or sexual attribute)
Yes, sometimes that guy or girl in your life just needs to hear how much you find them attractive. You don’t always have to get into the deeper emotional stuff, but a cheeky remark like «I love your butt» or «Because of the way you smile» is enough to make them feel all warm and fuzzy deep down. Physical attraction and sensuality aren’t the most important things in a relationship, but they can go a long way toward keeping any relationship alive!
Because you’re in it for the long haul
Being committed to a relationship isn’t easy! It takes real hard work to stay committed, and you may find yourself struggling often. But when you and your partner can actually keep up that commitment through thick and thin, that’s something worth appreciating. Let him or her know just how much you love and appreciate them for sticking it out no matter what!
This question of «Why do you love me?» doesn’t have to be a trap! In fact, it can be a great opportunity for you to push your love for each other to the next level with a well-thought-out, honest answer from the list above.