This isn’t one of those fluff pieces about how to get a guy to «like» you on a physical level. Guys are naturally attracted to beautiful women like you, but you want something more than just a physical connection. You want something that’s real, on a deeper level than just «guy likes pretty girl».
If you want to know how to make a guy like you or how to get him to fall for you for real, you’ve come to the right place. Here, we’re going to delve into the real truths about how to make someone fall in love with you in a way that gives you a real chance at a future together, rather than just a few moments of fun.
Step 1: Look the part.
Guys are going to be attracted to physical beauty first, and only after that initial attraction will they find the connection to your inner beauty. To get their attention off the bat, you’ll need to look the part. Find the outfit, style, and look that makes you feel good about yourself, and makes you attractive to the guy you like. Looking good boosts your confidence, and confidence is one of the most appealing things in the world!
Bonus: Use perfume, cologne, or body spray to smell good. The olfactory senses play a huge role in initial attraction and can go a long way toward engaging his senses completely.
Step 2: Show interest.
You do this through your body language: leaning close to him, initiating physical contact, and using active listening techniques. It may sound silly, but doing things like batting your eyelashes, throwing your head back when you laugh, and imitating his body language has been scientifically proven to signal attraction. These little things will send the signal to his subconscious brain that you’re as interested in him as he is in you.
Step 3: Get him talking.
Guys like to talk about themselves, their interests, and the things they’re passionate about (not in a self-absorbed way, but in the way that we all like to feel people care about what we like). If you ask him questions that get him talking about his interests, he’ll start feeling a connection with you on a subconscious level. After all, if you show approval in his interests, it means you’re showing approval in him. That will make him feel deeply connected with you and go a long way toward building trust.
The way to build a connection with someone is to share parts of yourself with them. You can do that by talking about things you’re passionate about, past experiences, future plans, or things that interest you on a deeper level. The more you open up, the more he will feel the emotional connection to you. You don’t have to go on and on about your topic of conversation, but open up enough that he feels he has something special with you that no one else has.
Step 5: Use proximity and distance.
Guys want to know you’re available, which is where simple flirtation techniques come in handy: making physical contact, getting close to him, manipulating your hair, body language, etc. However, you also want to make it clear that he’s going to have to work to get you. You do that by backing off, keeping your distance, and keeping your flirtation light. Get close enough to engage his senses, then back off to make him come to you.
It may seem like a contradiction in terms, but it works like a charm!
Step 6: Have an opinion.
This is a good way to show that you’re your own person with your own thoughts and opinions. Keeping things too casual or «whatever you want» can be both boring and frustrating. You don’t want to be so opinionated or headstrong that you dominate him completely, but make it clear that you know what you want when it comes to picking your next date location, your meal choices, your activity, or even in your topic of conversation. Guys are always more attracted to women that know what they like and want!
Step 7: Follow up.
If the first date went well, don’t just assume that he’ll call you back when he says he will. Guys like to feel like you want them, and you can show him that by shooting him a next-day text or voice message. Thank him for a nice time, reiterate how much fun you had, then say you’d like to hang out or go out again. You can even come up with a date idea of your own, thereby taking control of the situation. It’s highly flattering to the male brain (and ego) to know that you’re interested in them. It will ramp up their attraction to you far faster.
Step 8: Be busy sometimes
You don’t always want to be 100% available for them or to do what they want. Instead, make plans with your own friends, and make it clear that he’s going to have to put in a bit of effort to find a place in your life. Don’t do it in a way that manipulates him, but you need to show him that you are a complete person with your own life. You’re not there to cater to his every whim, but you have a life, friends, passions, and interests. If he wants to be a part of it, he’ll have to work a bit harder.
Step 9: Be real.
This is the most important tip anyone can give you. Don’t pretend to be someone or something you’re not. Be who you are, and if he doesn’t like that, he’s not the guy for you. The guy who likes the real you is the one that’s going to stick around for the long haul!
The tips above aren’t there for you to manipulate or «play» that guy, but they can help you know how to make him fall for you legitimately, every time!